I'm Rebecca. I'm a Relationship Intuitive.

I work with people who are stuck in something they can't think their way out of. A pattern that keeps repeating. A conversation that never gets finished. A version of themselves they don't recognize anymore.

You've analyzed it. You understand it, and understanding hasn't freed you. You're still spinning your wheels. The wellness industry hasn't fixed the issue. The coping tools you used brought you this far, but they're not sustainable.

That's not a failure of effort. It's a signal that the work needs to happen somewhere other than your mind.

I work with how you relate to what you're carrying—the story you're telling yourself, the meaning you've made, the weight you're still holding. When that shifts, everything else can move.

Repair is the word that holds everything I do together.

Not fixing. Not resolving. Not apologizing. Not condemning. Repairing—the bridge between you and yourself, first. Everything else follows from there.

You don't need to change what happened. You need to change your relationship to it.

I don't change memories. I don't even change feelings. The change that I work on inside of my containers with my clients is the relationship to things.

I'm a relationship intuitive. I don't just work with couples, though, or only with interpersonal relationships. I work with the questions that wonder: how do you relate to this event? How did it form you? What did it influence? What came before? How did it shift?

And, most importantly, what do you need in order to come back into alignment? What does that mean, for you?

The words you choose influence the way you relate to your experience. The way you describe something has an impact on how you feel about it. That's the work.

Here's what that looks like:

I was somewhere in my very early 20s, walking home from my university building at Parc des Bastions in Geneva. I was about to cross the crosswalk toward Bâtiment du Mail, running through my mental list of everything I had going on that day.

Classes. Projects and research. Work schedule. Social life. And then I hit 'piano' and stopped. I need to practice. The weight of that need, the burden of responsibility...For a moment, I started to feel very negatively toward my instrument.

I remember exactly where I was when the thought came: Wait. But piano is a choice.

No one is expecting anything of me. Piano had been an obligation for many years—having chosen music as a main subject of study in high school, it came with school grades given by my piano teacher. But by the time I arrived at this moment, I realized I was still choosing to continue.

It's not that I'm obligated to play. It's not that I need to practice. It's that I want to.

As soon as I changed it from an obligation to a desire, I was able to shift the weight of the experience. My relationship to that specific experience went from one that felt very burdensome to one that felt very inspired.

I walked home in just a few minutes with that clarity guiding me, and I immediately spent one of the longest practice sessions I'd had in a very long time—inspired by my desire to sit down and enjoy my instrument again.

That's what this work is.

Not changing what happened. Not even changing what I felt about piano. But shifting my relationship to the experience so everything downstream changed. The way I practiced. The way I showed up to my instrument. The way I moved through my day. The way I treated my to-do list.

A few years later, the same principle showed up in a different way.

I was 23, struggling with my first real kind of relationship that wasn't really a relationship. I'd just finished a short internship at a democratic free school in New York that didn't go well—I felt treated like a second-class citizen, very undervalued, minimized, and erased as a person. I spent days crying in the tiny room that was mine in my dad's apartment.

I'd quit smoking months earlier, but in that moment of feeling so miserable, I really craved a cigarette.

And at the same speed as that thought came up, the response was: But every time I've smoked when I was feeling like this, it made me feel worse, not better. The gesture may relieve me, but the truth is it doesn't help. In fact, it hinders.

The question came immediately: Well then what do I do to deal with all of this?

Funny enough, it was a random TV show, a random line in a script, where the actress said something about gratitude multiplying the goodness in the world. That line stayed with me, becoming a tattooed memory filled with whimsy.

For the next few days, I exited my depressive bout very quickly and made it to the other side with gratitude. I started writing gratitudes at the back of a tiny journal. Random gratitudes about having the friends I had in New York. Having a space I didn't need to pay rent on, even if it cost me other things. Being able to complete my degree. Any and everything that crossed my mind that I felt grateful for.

Very quickly after I started writing, I felt better.

These two stories compound to create the foundation of my work:

Realizing that the seasons where we feel really bad about ourselves deserve something a little kinder than the criticism we're used to giving. That the way we relate to our experiences—through the language we use, the meaning we assign, the emotional weight we carry—changes everything.

You change your relationship to the same experience. You change the way that experience influences you.

What this work is multidimensional.

Life isn't just one thing in isolation. You don't have one problem separate from everything else.

Multidimensional means your stuck point is never just one thing—it's this relationship on top of survival on top of unpacking your bullshit on top of paying bills on top of kids on top of deadlines on top of trying to be the right kind of adult, and I help you see how it's all connected.

The work is as varied as the lives of the people who bring it to me. Pregnancy and grief and creative blocks and failing marriages and identity crises and money and sexuality and what comes next.

What's consistent is the question: how are you relating to it, and what needs to shift?

What this work requires of you.

This work requires your active participation. I don't heal you—I help you access what you already know.

I'm not a healer. If healing happens inside of my spaces, it's by your own natural inclination—a byproduct of the work, not the offering. I say this because calling myself a healer makes you passive in a process that only works because of your active participation.

You're not coming to me to be fixed. You're coming because you're ready to do something with what you already know.

Who I am.

I don't just help with thresholds. I am a threshold.

I've lived between worlds my entire life—and survival required learning to read what's underneath.

This isn't a technique I learned. This is lineage work.

I come from threshold-walkers—immigrants, survivors, people who've had to read between languages and cultures to survive. Great-grandparents fleeing pogroms. My mother leaving Brazil at 19, moving to Geneva at 36. Me moving to Geneva at 6, learning French by 7, losing my American accent in my native English.

I grew up immersed in Gurdjieff's 4th Way communities—trained in self-observation and seeing unconscious patterns before I had words for what I was doing. My Brazilian lineage includes Afro-Brazilian spiritual traditions. I was identified as a daughter of Young Iemanjá (emotional depth, holding through transformation) and Oxaguiã (cutting through to truth), with Vovó (grandmother wisdom) guiding me.

My third eye opened during Vipassana in 2016. For years, I suspended disbelief around isolated incidents—tarot readers, energy workers, spiritual practitioners all telling me the same thing. Then in more recent years, more and more in the last 12 months, the message became impossible to ignore: you're psychic.

So I did something about it.

I've spent years learning the difference between relationships that can transform and relationships that are complete. I know when to stay and when to go. I know the difference between CAN'T YET and WON'T EVER. I learned this through lived experience—years of trying to repair what couldn't be repaired, and years of doing the work that actually could shift.

My background includes hypnosis, NLP, mediation, timeline work, Zegg Forum facilitation, and years of sitting with people in moments where their old ways of being no longer fit.

But what matters more than technique is this: I learned to read underneath because I had to. And I've done the relational work on myself that I now hold for others.

WHO THIS IS FOR

You're standing at a threshold.

Maybe it's:

A relationship revealing patterns you thought you'd already worked through
A partnership (romantic, creative, professional) stuck in a loop you can't break
An identity that's outgrown its container
A creative block your brilliant brain can't think past
A transition that feels bigger than the situation itself
A conflict where everyone keeps saying the same things in different ways

You know something's changing. You just can't see to what yet.

That's exactly where my work begins.

THREE WAYS TO WORK WITH ME

I work across two dimensions of relationship: relationship to self and relationship to other. Sometimes the work is private and deeply personal. Sometimes it's interpersonal and held in community. Here's where to start based on what's calling you:

DOOR 1: "I want to explore this in community"

Start here: a conversation.

I work with organizations, teams, and communities where the relational dynamics are getting in the way of the work. Communication that keeps breaking down in the same places. Groups that can't get past a conflict they've been carrying for months. Leadership that knows something is off but can't name what.

Before I design anything, I talk to people. As many as I can reach. I come into the space and watch how things actually move before I decide what the work needs to be. That preparation is the methodology — not a preliminary step to it.

What I bring into the room depends entirely on what I find before I get there. Sometimes that's Forum facilitation — a structured circle practice for making the invisible visible in a group. Sometimes it's a facilitated conversation that uses different tools depending on what the dynamic actually calls for. Sometimes it's a combination across multiple sessions.

Group size, scope, and structure are all flexible. What's consistent is the prep.

Reach out directly to serendipitous.shift@gmail.com or book a free conversation if any of this resonates.

Book a Facilitation Conversation

DOOR 2: "We're stuck together and need help navigating this"

Start here: Scratching the Surface (partnership questionnaire is included)

For couples, creative collaborators, business partners, or family members in conflict. Both of you fill out the questionnaire first, then we meet together for 60 minutes.

I help you see the pattern you're stuck in, what each of you is protecting, and what wants to shift. Sometimes that leads to mediation sessions or couples intensive work. Sometimes it's just the clarity you needed to move forward on your own.

Leads to: Mediation sessions, relationship-focused intensive work, Partnership Paradigm

Scratch the Surface

DOOR 3: "I'm stuck in my own patterns and need focused support"

Start here: Scratching the Surface

This is where everyone starts. Not a sales call—actual work. I listen, I read what's underneath, I reflect back what I'm sensing. You leave with clarity on your next step and whether deeper work together makes sense.

You are a multidimensional being with a story that took a lifetime to construct. We can only scratch the surface in 60 minutes. That's not a limitation—that's the point. What surfaces in this first conversation is rarely the whole picture, and often not even the main one. But it's enough to orient: what's alive right now, what's underneath it, and whether deeper work together makes sense.

This is an introduction, exclusively available at the start of a new cycle of Serendipitous work.

Leads to: Intensive 1:1 work

Finding Ground ~ 8 weeks.
[Name TBD] ~ 8 months. Don't name it until you've run it once. For those who want to stay longer. An 8-month container for the work that doesn't fit inside a single season. Details on request.

Scratch the Surface

CAPACITY & PRICING

I work with 10-15 people in deep intensive containers at any time. These are people I hold closely, whose breakthroughs live in my awareness between sessions. They get voice memos, memes, downloads between our work together. When intensive slots are full, new clients join a waitlist.

I also facilitate Atlanta circle work rotating through weekly and monthly gatherings for those searching for that sense of continuity. This is village-scale healing—the group holds the container, I guide the process.

Scratching the Surface consults are always available. I can hold about 20 conversations per month. This is where everyone starts.

I price my work to be accessible while honoring its depth. Sliding scale available for Pattern Disruption Intensive. Circles operate largely on contribution model—no one turned away for lack of funds, though some limits apply.

This isn't artificial scarcity. It's honoring the depth and presence this work requires.

A Note on Grace

You'll need grace for this work.

Not as a spiritual concept, but as pragmatic softness in the face of your own humanity.

Grace is what allows you to acknowledge the mistake without drowning in it. To feel the grief without being consumed by it. To notice you're stuck in the same pattern again and say: okay, this is it. Now what?

The work I hold is participatory, not passive. You will be asked to look at things you'd rather avoid. You will make connections that sting. You will see your own part in patterns you thought were someone else's fault.

Grace is what makes that bearable.

It's the willingness to forgive yourself for your humanity well enough to do something about it. Not to excuse it, but to work with it. To change your relationship to it so the next time around—and there will be a next time—you move through it differently.

Grace is the gentler version of equanimity. It's equanimity tinged with softness and compassion and a willingness to always forgive yourself for your humanity well enough to do something about it.

This work asks a lot of you. Grace is what makes it sustainable.

Not sure where you fit?

You don't need to decide perfectly. Some questions to ask yourself:

Do I want clarity now, or change over time?
Am I working with one knot, or an entire system?
Is this about me and my patterns, or about me and another person?
Do I want private support, or exploration in community?

Let your intuition answer, not your productivity brain.

Still not sure? Book Scratching the Surface. We'll figure out together where you actually are and what you actually need.

Book Your Scratching the Surface Consult

Final Note

I'm not here to tell you who or how to be. I'm here to guide you into finding the thoughts, words, and actions that bring you into relationship with yourself and others in a way that consistently aligns with YOU.

The work isn't smooth. It's not meant to be. We're working with the multidimensional reality of your life—the layers, the complexity, the parts that don't fit into neat frameworks.

If that resonates, I'm here.

Book Your Scratching the Surface Consult

Have questions? Contact me.

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